The Twenty Questions of The Do You Know Scale
The 20 items of the DYK scale are provided below. Please remember that these are only a representative sample of the kinds of questions that kids should be able to answer. You can make up others. The main criterion is that the questions are about things that the children could not have learned on their own or experienced directly. Each family will have different stories and different key moments and memories that are shared. It is not the content of what is known that is the critical factor, but the process by which these things came to be known.
In order to hear family stories, family members must sit down with one another without distractions. Some people have to talk and some have to listen. The stories need to be told over and over and the times of sitting together need to be multiple and occur over many years. The most convenient times traditionally have been family dinners, family trips in the car, vacations, birthday gatherings, etc. These gatherings -- short or long -- are at the heart of the process by which the intergenerational stories can be told and learned and through which children can grow stronger and healthier. There is no quick fix. No simply learning the answers to the questions. A family which has regular, multiple, predictable and inviolable opportunities to learn family history is more likely to create a family narrative.
Please answer the following questions by circling "Y" for "yes" or "N" for "no." Even if you know the information we are asking about, you don't need to write it down. We just wish to know if you know the information.
Score: Total number answered Y.
Important Note : About that last question! Fifteen percent of our sample actually answered "Yes!" This is because the stories that families tell are not always "true." More often than not they are told in order to teach a lesson or help with a physical or emotional hurt. As such, they may be modified as needed. The accuracy of the stories is not really critical. In fact, there are often disagreements among family members about what really happened! These disagreements then become part of the family narrative.
Source: Huffpost.com, The Stories That Bind Us: What Are the Twenty Questions, by ByMarshall P Duke, PhD, Contributor, Charles Howard Candler Professor of Psychology--Emory University, 03/23/2013 10:09am ET | Updated May 23, 2013